How to Make Gender-Specific Colors or Patterns “Work” at Important Events

Plaid is perfect of Christmas celebrations and ’90s themed events.

It’s kind of silly to think of colors and patterns as masculine or feminine, but we all do it. Fortunately, when planning an event, whether it’s a birthday party or a wedding, you can pretty much ignore traditional color connotations. Likewise, we can ignore any gender ascribed to particular patterns, like plaid and floral. Certainly, some colors and patterns are more conducive to certain events than others, but you should never hesitate to rent table linen or choose a color palette based on outdated notions of gendered color.

Pride London Parade, July 2011

Pink Knows No Boundaries

Back in the early days of metrosexuality (you know, back when personal grooming was considered a strictly feminine activity), Ryan Seacrest made headlines (for some reason) over his decision to wear pink shirts. Since then, more men have come to terms with the idea that all colors are gender-neutral. Women, of course, have always had more leeway in terms of what they decide to wear or what table linen we choose, but our friends might raise an eyebrow if we decided to decorate our domicile like a hunter’s lodge, where red plaid and green camouflage reign supreme.

Indeed, no matter how damaging and antiquated they are, stereotypes persist, and ignoring them won’t make them go away. It is not by chance that the Susan G. Komen Foundation chose pink as the go-to color for women’s health, or that men’s clothing consists of scores of neutral tones with the occasional pink or lavender collared shirt thrown in. We are all well-aware that attributing a gender to something as blatantly gender-neutral as a segment of the light spectrum is entirely silly, cultural . . . and common

Away from tradition

Back in the early days of metrosexuality (you know, back when personal grooming was considered a strictly feminine activity), Ryan Seacrest made headlines (for some reason) over his decision to wear pink shirts. Since then, more men have come to terms with the idea that all colors are gender-neutral. Women, of course, have always had more leeway in terms of what they decide to wear or what table linen we choose, but our friends might raise an eyebrow if we decided to decorate our domicile like a hunter’s lodge, where red plaid and green camouflage reign supreme.

Indeed, no matter how damaging and antiquated they are, stereotypes persist, and ignoring them won’t make them go away. It is not by chance that the Susan G. Komen Foundation chose pink as the go-to color for women’s health, or that men’s clothing consists of scores of neutral tones with the occasional pink or lavender collared shirt thrown in. We are all well-aware that attributing a gender to something as blatantly gender-neutral as a segment of the light spectrum is entirely silly, cultural . . . and common.

A J. Press plaid sport coat from the fall coll...

A J. Press plaid sport coat from the fall collection. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Manly, Manly Plaid

Ah, plaid. As mentioned above, it’s the preferred pattern of hunters and other manly men. While plaid goes in and out of style for women, men can always count on it for its robust color schemes and steadfast square patterned cloth. As the photo above shows, though, plaid is the perfect pattern for holiday celebrations and for any ’90s themed event.

Due to ’90s nostalgia, plaid has been making a comeback lately-and not just classic plaid tablecloths for outdoor events. To capitalize on this trend, one of the best ways to include plaid table linen in your event is to throw a ’90s themed party.

 

80’s night!

’80s night has become a standard at many night clubs, but the ’90s are a bit more difficult to pin down. This is the era that saw TLC rise to fame alongside Pearl Jam, after all, so coming up with a unifying theme seems difficult. So if you decide to throw a ’90s party for a Gen-Y-er’s birthday, a plaid tablecloth rental will essentially cover every trend. It appeared in everything from Slackers to Clueless and remained popular right up to the teen pop invasion.

But what type of plaid? That will really depend on your personal taste. After all, there’s Kurt Cobain plaid and there’s Gwen Stefani plaid . . . and even Britney Spears plaid, for that matter. Your best bet would be to review your options for online tablecloth rental and go from there. Then set a ’90s playlist and party like it’s 1999.

 

Pretty in Pink

Again, women have far more leeway in terms of what we’re “allowed to wear.” In a perfect world, anyone should be allowed to wear anything they want, of course. I would argue that everyone should wear whatever they want in order to create that perfect world. We should also be able to throw around pink square tablecloths and put pink cherry blossoms everywhere without regard for traditional gender norms.

Because let’s face it-everyone loves cherry blossoms. Everyone knows that pink frosting is the best frosting. Everyone exchanges pink hearts and pink roses on Valentine’s Day, regardless of whether or not they have found a significant other. So pink napkins aren’t going to hurt anyone and pink chair ties will only serve as compelling bursts of color.

Pink is often associated with romance, and more couples, like my friends mentioned above, are working to incorporate it into the festivities. Often paired with neutral tones, pink table linen can be delicate or striking, depending on the tone you choose. Fuchsia and black look quite sophisticated together, while pale pinks are the perfect complement to ivory tablecloths. And no matter how you decide to make your pink palette look fabulous, be sure to include lots of pink flowers.

Go the Blues?

One of my friends decided to dress her beautiful baby girl in pale blue hand-me-downs. We didn’t think it was a big deal until the third person stopped to pat the child on the head and remark, “What a handsome baby boy!” While it can be hard to determine gender in a four-month-old, I got the distinct impression that it was the color blue that they deemed “masculine.”

So what is it about blue that makes “masculine,” anyway? It is so serene and ubiquitous that limiting it to one gender just seems inorganic. And, of course, women wear blue all the time without even thinking about its connotations. We really only think of blue as being a “boy color” with regard to children, so you can pull off a beach-themed party with blue table runners and shell-white chair covers quite easily.

Some might argue that darker shades of blue like navy are masculine due to their association with the armed forces, but women have served in armies since the invention of war, which renders this point ineffective. Navy is often considered a neutral in the fashion world, and it is perfect for creating an event with a nautical theme. You should stick with white table linen, but you can incorporate navy elsewhere, such as in the cloth napkins or in your flower choices. You may also add rope-like details throughout, and use round glass dinnerware to evoke portholes.

 

The Darling Buds of May

As noted in the “pink” section, everyone can love, or at least appreciate, cherry blossoms. Men do garden, after all, and they do appreciate the finer things in life, so associating floral prints with women only seems excessive. Modern floral prints tend to err on the side of neutral colors, anyway, so floral tablecloths are more a matter of elegant graphic design than they are literal drawings of flowers.

Events with a floral theme are particularly appropriate for the spring and summer. You may wish to take advantage of the abundant flowers during this time and stick with solid, square tablecloths, or you may want to extend the theme further. Some even like to match their linen napkins to elaborately-printed floral table linen.

Another option would be to look for glasses and dinner plates that reflect a floral motif. Think of bread and butter plates in the shape of daisies, or even small vases with a floral detail.

 

Rainbow

When all else fails, look to the sky for inspiration. Rainbows have become an emblem for diversity and acceptance, but they have always been popular motifs. Just think of the Dark Side of the Moon album cover as an example. By combining every color, they are the opposite of gender-specific.

Rainbows are unapologetically bright, so your options will basically come down to using neutral shades to temper that brightness, or just letting them be as ostentatious as you want. Both choices can yield delightful table linen arrangements. You can also go dark or light with it, and look for rainbow-inspired pieces of décor. Some companies make iridescent linen overlays, for example, and you can often find sets of martini glasses that showcase glass in every color of the rainbow.

Rainbow-themed events are some of the most difficult, and therefore the most rewarding, to arrange. Some prefer to decorate each table with linen in varying colors-a difficult task when table arrangements aren’t symmetrical. Others prefer to include different rainbow elements on each table. Perhaps an iridescent glass dinner plate, or even linen chair covers in alternating colors.

Not many have the ambition or time to plan a rainbow-themed party, so be thorough. Above all, have fun with it. Think of how you feel every time you see a rainbow after a storm and let it inspire you.

Looking for fun ways to integrate colors and patterns into your next event?

These websites are a great place to start.

Birthday Tablecloth Rental
Find the perfect tablecloth rental in any color, for any age group.
Smithsonian Magazine
A great article on the cultural history of gendered colors.
My Party Planner
Look for vendors, suggestions, and more for help planning your next event.